Daughter and father complex issues can stem from an overbearing father, an absentee father or even from the mother. Yes, even in the mom.
Daddy issues or what is known as the Electra syndrome, is a complicated issue of a daughter competing with her mother to the interest of the father. As the child grows up, she finally tends to search for male attention outside of the home front. When a girl is ultra flirtatious, sexually aggressive, wanting to capture men’s attention, then there is a very substantial possibility that the girl has issues known as the Electra complex.
Unrealized expectation or fantasy
Some problems result from the dad being very strict, constricting the freedom of the daughter, and imposing perfectionism. The daughter would either respond by living up to the father’s anticipation and even actually living her father’s unfinished dreams; or rebel. There are fathers who wanted a son but ended up getting a daughter. This unrealized expectation or fantasy, when not properly handled, will cause the daughter to feel inferior and will attempt to compensate for living up to the role of a son. She’ll live the life of her father’s “son” and will soon find herself with no identity. This can cause the daughter to excel in college, appear very successful in her profession, but unbeknownst to the outside world, she has inferior self-image and is overstressed trying to live up to her father’s expectations.
The issue in this sort of daughter and father complex issue can cause confusion and dilemma in establishing the daughter’s self-identity. At a certain point in her life, she will begin to wonder why she’s feeling “not herself” or “unsuccessful” in spite of excelling in everything that she does. Living up to other people’s expectations can be quite straining on anybody and this is exactly what happens to the daughter. Another offshoot to this is at a point once the daughter snaps and suddenly drops the ball. She might feel that the weight too heavy to carry that she may elect to go against the will of the father and become self-destructive.
Some daughters with overpowering dads can choose to respond aggressively even as a young woman and will never try to please her dad at all. In fact, she’ll go out of her way to show her displeasure for her dad’s micro-management. She will smoke, have low grades, and may resort to drugs and alcohol merely to rebel and make her point. This creates the complete reverse of this perfectionist daughter.
Another daughter and father complex issue comes from the absence of a father figure. The latter state leaves a very strong dent on the self-esteem of their daughter. The daughter can grow up with the thought that she is not worthy of a father’s love. Some may even feel they caused the parents’ separation and the father leaving them.
Low self-confidence and sense of guilt
With low self-confidence and feeling of guilt, a daughter can grow up to be withdrawn and mediocre. The daughter’s yearning for a father’s affection, protection and advice can cause deep melancholy and pain as the girl grows up. And a few pent-up anger can be directed inwardly that affects the mental health of the daughter.
Absentee dads to get into drugs
It’s not uncommon for daughters with absentee fathers to get into drugs, go into depression and have multiple partners. Sadly, these problems are not very easy to show as the cause for the problematic life of their adult daughter. When a grown up daughter spirals downward with some alcohol or drug problems or multiple divorces, the main cause which goes all of the way to her childhood may not be apparent even to the closest people to her. Many daughters suffering from this daughter and father complex issue might not even recognize the root cause of her failing life.
These complex issues can cause not just anxiety, depression or anxiety but even neurosis. The woman can despise the father and despise herself for allowing such things to happen.
Father figure Is Essential
A father figure is very important to the wellbeing of a daughter’s emotional and mental growth. The father’s presence can fill up a daughter’s most memorable moments. The father, being the first adult male experience of any daughter, can spell the success or failure of their daughter’s future relationships with men.
Can devastate the future
Parents should recognize that daughter and father complex issues are real and can devastate the future of their daughter. They ought to work out a strategy on increasing their daughter correctly.
Conclusion: A genuinely caring dad who gives time and shows affection to his young daughter can provide an anchor so that her woman won’t go astray; and continue on the right path towards success in various fronts of life, particularly in marriage.